Happiness is our responsibility

My mother used to describe individual responsibility in vivid terms. Whether it is a nightmare or a pleasant dream, you alone will sweat or smile. She would then advise to have pleasant thoughts during the day, and do no wrong that it comes to haunt you in your dreams. Simplistically, if you do wrong, it's your hiney that will be hauled off to the jail, and you have to live with the torment and pain... others can bail you out, but cannot live with the feelings but sympathize. 

You have to live your life yourselves. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mike-ghouse/happiness-tips_b_4569679.html